Ya, the problem with hubby is, he has major problems. I have some other posts out there about the problems I have with him. To make a long story short he is disabled (mentally and physically). I feel like I am a mother of four. He is not around a whole lot (he is usually passed out in the basement or at his friends). When he is around he complicates things and I have a much harder time with the kids. So getting hubby on the same page isn't going to happen, I've talked to him about his terrible parenting skills till I was blue in the face. It's pointless to talk to someone who wont' remember what you say within a hour of saying it not to mention he doesn't see it (his favoritism, ect.). Thanks for the idea though, I'd love for that to happen but I'm on my own on this one.