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MissCharlotte said:
I do like the closeness I feel when I am sitting on the couch as opposed to the chair.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">MissCharlotte, do you regularly sit next to your therapist on the couch? I find that thought intriguing. My T has 2 couches (just regular couches) that face each other and a "therapy chair" of the swivel type that he sat in all the time when I first came to him. He would sit in this chair right opposite me with the other couch behind him. We were oh so close and I loved it. Later he transitioned to the couch behind him and never sits in the chair anymore. It took me a long time to get over the loss of his closeness, but now I am totally used to it. I have gotten up from my seat on the couch and gone over to his couch to sit next to him on a few occasions. It was always to show him something, which we could better do side by side. Then after I was done showing him, I would always leave his couch and return to my own. I would have felt weird staying there for the whole session, like I was invading his space! I was OK with making a temporary foray to his couch, but I was cognizant of being there and wanted to respect his physical boundaries, so I felt I should get up and go back to my place. So, MissCharlotte, I think it is really cool that you sit side by side with your T on the couch (if that is how you do it). I have told my T how my daughter sometimes lies on the couch at her therapist's and asked him if he ever has clients lie on the couch in his office, but that is the closest I have got to discussing this topic. He recently invited me to switch places with him on his couch, or sit anywhere I wanted in the office. My thoughts went immediately to his therapy chair, abandoned during our sessions. I think I wanted to go sit there! Because I wanted to model the behavior I would like from him, lol. But I just stayed where I was. I'm comfortable there. It feels safe, and safety is important to me in therapy. Sometimes when I come in the office to sit in my place, I know he has been sitting on my couch with the previous client sitting on what I consider to be "his couch." (He moves all over and lets the client choose.) I like sitting down on the couch where he just has been, in his imprint. It makes me feel closer to him. Ha ha. I always find therapy furniture discussions fascinating.