I don't know the answers but suffer with you. I think it's been longer then a year for me. It plays major games with your head, mine anyway (makes me feel ugly and unwanted). I've never strayed though. I'm 33 and I feel like I will never experience romance again. My family life is to important to me to leave him for that (he has a lot of other problems too (mental and physical)). I guess it depends on how important it is to you, if it leads to divorce or not. I wish you the best of luck and like bebop said "you are not alone".