bananasarecool,

I'm not being judgmental either, but here's what I tell my children: “If you're too embarrassed to talk about sex with your partner, then you should be too embarrassed to have it.”

I recently had this discussion again with one of my sons that is your age. He’s been dating a girl that is a year and a half older than he is. I added to the previous that there are no “accidents” in this house. Before he decides to have sex with his girlfriend, he’d better think long and hard about whether he’s prepared to be a father. If he’s not ready to be someone’s father, then he shouldn’t be having sex. Babies are a very real consequence of sex.

IF you decide you're going to go through with this anyway, definitely use condoms. There are so many diseases out there that he may not even know that he has, such as herpes or genital warts. In theory, he should care enough about you to have them himself, but I would suggest you keep them on hand to avoid the "oh, I don't have one, one time without them should be ok."

Perhaps I'm the most fertile person on the planet, but I got preggers with my first child while I was on the pill. I had a bout with strep throat and did not know that this made the pill ineffective. My second child was while my husband and I were using condoms. And my twins were after he had a vasectomy. (Which he was compliant with and did his lab work and had a zero sperm count. The tubes later grew back together on one side making him fertile without our knowing it.)

Another thing that I’ve notice through out my life, is when you become sexually active with your partner, fights increase in frequency and ferocity.

When the time is right, there will be no embarrassment. You’ll know that he’s the right one because you can share anything and everything with him. And if you should become pregnant, you know that he’ll be there ready, willing, and able to take responsibility for the child.