This was posted a while ago. I hope I'm not posting with my foot in my mouth and that your sister is doing well or is at least comfortable.

I know your dad... in fact, we might be sisters. It is a very hard relationship to navigate b/c they will call you horrible names over the color of a cracker. They see any kind of disagreement as automatic rejection.

My dad is in the hospital right now and I told him to "f" himself just a few days ago. It makes me feel so guilty when I fight with him...

I honestly wish I had your strength and your grit to get through this without letting his anger get to you. That's what i'm struggling against right now.

Best wishes for a peaceful resolution.