I don't know if it's to late or not; but this is why I think it's so important to have children involved in sports, it keeps them involved and around children they'll grow up with and hopefully stay friends with. My suggestion would be to try to sign him up for something and don't give him a choice except for what he wants to sign up for. Is he interested in art, music any kind of sport maybe even computers or gaming? My children don't have a choice they will play a fall and spring sport. I have an 11 year old and has been in sports since he was five. I don't think it's too late for your son, you can use high school as a fresh start, there are lots of clubs he could join. I know it's easier said then done especially coming from someone who does not have teenagers. I'm really sorry that you have to go through this, teens seem to have it so ruff these days. I'm sure your first thought would be put him in therapy which may work for some people but I think it would make some kids feel like even more of a freak like there is something wrong with them. I was never a fan of medicating children. I'm sure some really do need it. When my 11 year old was in 1st and 2nd grade they thought he had ADD, I explored every option and considered medication as a last resort. He is now going into fifth grade and he made principals list three parking periods last year and I never put him on medication. My four year old is a whole other story!

This is just an oppinion not medical advice at all, so please if you think he's suicidal or truly has phycalogical problems take him to a crisist center, if you can't get him to go you can call an ambulance.

Sorry for the lengthy response! The best of luck to you and your son!