Hi! I'm a new member here, in need of some help. I'm 21, m boyfriend of 6 months is 31. up until the past few weeks, we have had the best relationship in the world. we have each had several very serious relationships and are compatible on every level. the age difference has never even been an issue.

we took a trip to his hometown last month, and ever since we got back, he's been very...down, and different. i know his job now is very unfufilling, and stresses him out, but he feels he needs it to provide to his 11 year old twins (which he has no problem doing, he's brilliant and could have a job wherever he wants) even though he's tired of our city and wants to actually have somewhat of a happy work environment and life now.

reacting to that, feeling like it must be something im doing wrong, i have started numerous arguments with him over things that never bother me. i was the most laid back chick in the world until we returned home...i thought i finally had a drip on myself last week until we argued again and i mentioned moving in together (because he has beought it up several times) and promptly felt like an idiot...he doesnt want to, thinks we're "rocky" and that now like "all women" i have "an agenda." i dont know whats making me feel this way, or what to do.'

i love him so much, but i feel like i have lost all of my self-confidence by making mistakes like this, and not letting things go like i used to.

i also wonder if i just went back to keeping little things to myself and behaving in the manner i used to, if that would put things back on track? he's never tried this hard for anyone, and i feel like im pushing him away by the way i keep picking at things, thinking that talking about it will make it better but obviously i doubt that.

what's up with me? and what should i do to get back on track?

thanks everyone