just my 2 cents.

i do hope i don't say anything to upset or aggrevate you. that's not my intention!

i do understand you feel you are old enough and ready. and the fact that you have been dating your boyfriend for 14 months is impressive and commendable for two young kids. the fact that you are asking questions and seeking advice is also a sign of maturity.

but you also mention being embarrassed and nervous. those may be signs that your not as ready as you think.

and you shouldn't have to worry whether or not your boyfriend will think you are immature for discussing your concerns! communication is a sign of maturity!!! it's also really difficult - even for adults!

as for being "bad" in bed your first time!! i'm betting most people are! that's why communication is so important. you both need to be able to talk about sex - before and after. find out what works and what doesn't. what you like and don't like.

i'm concerned as well that you asked if you need to use a condom even if you are on the pill. YES!!!!!! there are tons of nasty sexually transmitted diseases out there!!! (even if your boyfriend is a virgin. better safe than sorry) ALWAYS use a condom!! repeat after me... I WILL ALWAYS USE A CONDOM!!

***moderators: i don't know if this is stepping over the line since this poster is a minor. but since she's asking about sex, i'm going to assume it's ok. edit if need be.****

are you expecting to enjoy your first sexual experience? do you know that most women do not have an orgasm from the %#@&#! being inserted into the vagina? most women have an orgasm through clitoral stimulation. would you be able to discuss your wants and needs with your boyfriend?

a few other things to consider...

i know the pregnancy topic has been covered, but are you ready to be a mom? it can happen!

what if the two of you break up? i know it may seem impossible, but it happens all the time!

what if he tells his friends about having sex with you? guys talk!

what if your parents find out?

if you are still planning on having sex, i'd like to suggest you visit the following web site http://www.scarleteen.com/ it's a sex ed site for teens. lots of useful info!

take care of yourself! and keep posting questions and concerns!! you are a smart girl for doing so!