It's great that the two of you talked the argument out in a calm, rational matter. It still wouldn't hurt for hubby to attend a session or two with you, not just for you, but for him as well. It would be an excellent way for him to gain insight on what exactly you are going through, learn how to help you get stronger and maybe give him some food for thought about how to handle the next "dilemma" that should arise.

I know that strain of being on separate schedules; my ex and I were...him nights, me days, and every single weekend we had his daughter. Made it very tough to have 'us' time. When we lived together, our relationship wasn't as strained because we had a lot of time to be together without his daughter, but when he moved in with a friend to be closer to his job (140 miles round trip a day is Hell compared to 35 miles a day) things got sticky. He was an hour away, hard to just 'drop in' to say hi, and the three 10-minute phone calls everyday weren't enough either.

My thoughts and best wishes for you and hubby. Don't press too hard on the counseling issue, but it can't hurt.

Jenn