I think it was also just an opportunity that T saw to be playful. He is normally very attuned to what my reactions will be and he never would have done something like that if he he knew I would get upset or offended... he was exactly right in his thinking that I would probably argue with him, and then end up laughing.

Chaotic, that is an interesting exercise about body perception. I tend to to be aware that how I perceive myself is most likely not what other see. Like you said, the jeans are my jeans. Whether your jeans are a size 1 or a size 12, if you move even 1 size up, it matters because it means your body changed.