Oh my!

This is exactly what I mean. Let me clarify a bit since you brought out an important point (s).

First of all, I do get to see my child up here. He flies up unaccompanied. I get to see him in the summer and on a few alternating holidays during the year. (although not as much as the status qo). The reason that I don't get to see him as much as others was because I drafted my own lawsuit against the ex and ended up agreeing to less time because I could not afford an attorney.

In this case it is very important to note that the ex will not allow visitation when I move and will throw up any roadblock possible. When I moved up here to VA, I had to file my own lawsuit because my ex refused any visitation whatsoever. The ex's refusals are well complimented by a biased judge.

Last time we moved to the UK, I used the attorney (to try to enforce international visitation) that I used during my divorce (ironically very biased against me as well, and very accomodating to the ex). My attorney and the ex dragged the hearing date out for over a year!

At that time, I decided enough was enough and dragged my present family back to Florida to try to spend time with my son. Within months, the same thing happened (as it always does). I was not able to survive financially with the job that I got in Florida and ended up moving to Virginia (where things are good)...but I am full of fear that is well grounded (such as yours).

Secondly, if I could move to the UK and not pay "Child Support", then I would. The reason I say this is because I have a problem paying someone for the disservice of being selfish and not promoting TRUE equal parenting due to the lure of easy money. "Child Support" goes directly to the ex's "fun money" as it does for so many others. Even if it didn't, I have a real problem paying that money anyways, and if it wasn't for all of the bells and whistles that constantly go off, then I would not pay. I think that if someone wants to act like both parents by witholding parenting in any way without TRUE cause, then they should act like both parents and support their kid. My opinion on this is extremely strong and will not be swayed. (So please don't engage me in a political argument) The only reason that I mention this is because I didn't want any misconceptions about what I believe, since it will probably play a role in what I do next.

Third,

We may have to stay with some of my wife's family if we were to go out there. I mentioned that everyone alienates us out there. It is not quite as bad out there I believe. We believe that we are only alienated out here because we left there. We would probably have to stay with them until we got on our feet (yet again). They all smoke. As an American you know doubt know how my mind has been conditioned against smoking. I don't want my kids to be around smokers for a few weeks or months. It was a problem for me last time, and I am sure that it will be this time. Although I really can't tell people to go smoke outside their house if it is the norm there.

Thank you for your thoughts! They were very useful. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to say something.