I have been married to my husband for only fifteen months and I can't deal with him anymore. He started our marriage by lying to me about his finances. He was in a financial mess and in trouble with the IRS. He had a good career with an attractive salary but had nothing saved and was in debt to his eyeballs. I have straightened all of that out and got us back on our feet, but after several arguments, mostly about his lack of financial understanding, he admits that he thinks he has ADD. He took some tests on the web and aced them for ADD and his internist prescribed Strattera at our request. He has been on 80 mg a day, for three months, but the meds only seem to calm his inner panic when it comes to getting his work done. He still can't remember to drop the trash off at the end of our drive, or turn out a light. He never gives me my messages or remembers to tell me anything important. He started a new business five months after our wedding. I help him with the accounting, buying supplies, etc. with no paycheck and I get anger and resentment when I put my two cents in about spending too much money in the company. I want to quit and have threatened it, but he would fail without me and can't afford to pay anyone just yet. He insisted I handle the money at home before we were married and now I know why. I managed the finances and paid off all of his credit card debt and IRS and got his taxes in order, canceled many of his accounts and got him to clean up his credit file. Anyway, after one year of marriage, he insists on having his own checking account so he can buy me gifts without me knowing what he is up to. He asks me if he can take 350 out of our savings, and I say okay, then he takes 750 instead. As usual he waits 2 days before Christmas to shop for me, I have already shopped for his daughter to keep him from waiting until the last minute like last year and spending 2 grand on Christmas Eve. He didn't do anything for me for our first anniversary, not even a card. I got a Walmart cake and ice cream for my birthday. No card. He overdrew his checking account on Valentines Day to buy me a poetry book at the drug store. No card. Then when the overdraft charges come in the mail I hit the roof. I asked him to take care of it at the bank and he blames me for calling him at work and telling him about it. Then, two days ago, he gets another overdraft notice in the mail saying he bounced a check for $25 right after Valentines Day. When I show this to him, he gets defensive and claims it can't be correct. He showed me his checkbook and the check was missing and he never wrote it down, carbon was missing. I remembered what he wrote it for and he then recalled it. He never even balanced his checkbook after the first overdraft charge. I get angry and very frustrated but not saying anything to him directly. He then becomes hostile with me because I am angry. We started our marriage struggling with money because of him and his ADD. All he has to do is earn money, take the trash to the curb and balance his checkbook. I do everything else. I clean, cook, buy groceries, cut grass, care for our animals, keep his guilt tripping mother happy, even clean his bathroom at his office. He says very hurtful things to me when he is angry, and he used to apologize and blame himself when he cooled down, but now our arguments just blow over and things slowly get back to normal. I know ADD plays a large role in his actions. I am no shrinking violet. I say what is on my mind and I think a lot of times he is hurt by my everyday comments to him. I am somewhat of a perfectionist and like things in order and timely. I know that is not always a good thing. I just feel I have to walk on eggshells around him. He can remember the things he wants to, like bringing his laptop home everyday cause it is his livelyhood. I resent that I am a last minute thought on special events. He never gets confrontational with anyone but me. I feel he is insecure and my personality makes him evern less confident. He has even stated before that I am always on the ball and he would like for me to screw up sometime so he can point it out to me. I can't win. If I help him and take care of everything then I am called a "control freak and I am not happy unless I am in control and I watch his every move and treat him like a child." If I don't take care of stuff it doesn't get done and then it costs us time and money, and frustration. I am at the end of my rope. I want my marriage to work. My husband has many good qualities, and I know that no one is perfect. Is there a natural remedy that works? Strattera is not working and it costs too much.