When I first had my ed 20 years ago, it definitely had alot to do with watching what my mom didn't eat and how skinny she was. I was in competition with her and almost killed myself because I never saw how skinny I got. She was always skinnier and more beautiful in my mind. This time my relapse has different underlying issues, but was definitely triggered by my mom telling me last year, "I would rather see you overweight then smoking" when I quit smoking. I flipped out and went on a diet the next day. And the rest is history. But you can get healthy even if your mom doesn't. You need to take care of you and not worry about what she is doing to herself. Maybe once she sees you healthy, she can address her own issues, but you need to come first right now. Once I stepped out of the competition with my mom, I was able to heal. And now 20 years later, she eats normally and is a little heavier and has no issues whatsoever with food. And I am back to being a mess.