Wow Single Girl, I had to read your post several times because I am really trying to figure out a few things about you. How did you turn out to have such a kind and giving heart being raised in the situation you did? I am a little worried about your sense of obligation, I don't want you to suffer any longer because you feel obliged to help. I know many cities offer rides for people in your parents position. The money you have spent is gone but future monies would possibly be better spent on outside care. Saving your sanity would be worth millions. And you would not have to feel guilty about not helping your sibling or your parents. My mom lives about 260 miles away and my sister is stuck with a lot of responsibility. My mom was really something when I was growing up and she still drives me over the deep end! I try to do what I can and I try to go see my family every couple months. Luckily for my sister my mom is in an assisted living. But I have not let guilt make me move closer to where they are. I can not. I can not do that to myself, I grew up with it. And it does not sound like the level of abuse you suffered. So without saying any more I will let you think about it. I hope this has not made you feel bad, that was not my intention. But I really say straight out, in case you did not get the just of what Ive said. Think of yourself and your life and your mental state! Good Luck to you SingleGirl, I will be thinking good thoughts for you