Thanks for reading. I think yes this is a very big insight that can be taken and used in all areas of my life. I so get this need to experience an old situation in a new situation to recover from it. But its also frightening to think of the places and people where this has happened before and unless they have insight like this they would not have been aware of it and reacted to it from their own wounded selfs. I can make a long list of people I've fallen out with because of stuff that has been acting itself out and as far as I or we were aware if it was about us, when really its wasn't. But on the other hand it also gives you a new awareness and now when perhaps someone is accusing me of something I can know that perhaps its something they are needing to experience and "fix"? I look back on some of my relationships now and think, %#@&#!! I was mad, but also this isn't about blame or anything but it feels odd to be a witness to other peoples behaviours and have insight, it sort puts you in an observer role, where as before I was like a blind speiciman rat being pulled around without knowing why. I've been involved in some pretty dysfunctional relationships and right now its like I can see that, but still I am not quite sure I'm ready to completely give them up, I still feel theres something left inside of me that is still trying to resolve something, but my only hope is that this too will with time, be resolved and the dysfunctional relationships will just be let go, I'm not talking about my immediate family here, its some friends I made when I first got into recovery, I use to feel they were "fixed" and there was somethign well wrong wtih me, now i see there was something wrong wtih all of us accept they haven't taken their recovery any further, unyet I feel the need to pay them back for the self deceptions they fed me, see I'm still not "fix" yet, but as I say with time I hope this too will be resoved.