well,
look at it this way.
If you are already working these long hours and know that this effects your wife...why would you want to work more?
20 years is along time to reap your hard work when we never truly know what lies ahead tomorrow.
It is in my opinion that she needs you to be more stable and available.
Routine and Stability leads to more stability.
Less stress will help her in the short and long run of things.
Increased stress can push her over the edge.
If she is in denial then...
She needs individual counseling if she is not in therapy yet, as do you.
It is very hard living in a home with a chronic condition.
life is hard work...there are no easy roads.
The families work together to figure things out.
They make 4 times a day pill boxes to help keep track of meds etc. I even think there are some that are programable ...like an alarm if that would help.
You are a good man to want to help your wife.
In regards to her, your presence is manditory.
IMO
bizi