I know we would benefit from counseling and I've tried to talk him into it, but he doesn't believe there is a problem (we haven't slept in the same bed for over a year and he doesn’t think that's a problem). He seems to be okay with the fact that we do not have an intimate relationship. He on the other hand needs more then counseling (I'm not trying to be mean or spiteful). He suffered a really bad head injury, he has some mental issues from that and I believe some PTS from the war. I want nothing more than a normal supportive relationship but it's just not in my cards. When he is around the children, he doesn't know how to handle them, they actually behave worse when he is around. I’ve excepted the fact that this is my reality but once in a while like to daydream about a normal or at least better relationship with him. Say la vie.

I like this site, I’m able to get stuff off of my chest, this in a way is my new way of coping (my therapy).