All the time I am told how healthy it is to be assertive. But, you know what, it just bites you in the *** when you are. You are seen as a *****, selfish, no one likes that, especially if you usually are being walked over all the time. At least my passivity didn't make anyone angry and I didn't have the guilty feelings from standing up for myself. You just can't "win" I guess.
Sorry, I am angry and just ranting!