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Old Jul 02, 2008, 04:24 PM
pinksoil
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chaotic13 said:
Here are my questions for the group:
1) If you have a good therapist, why would you still resist and not take advantage of this opportunity to de-clutter your mind and bring order to the disorder????

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I don't think it matters how "good" the therapist is-- if you are not ready to talk about something, then you are not ready. It is not easy to allow someone to see the most shameful, hurt, and fragile parts of yourself. Trust yourself to know when it is time. If you don't feel ready, then analyze the resistance with your therapist. Tell her that you have something difficult to tell her, but you aren't feeling comfortable-- process that with her. What is the opportunity that you mention? Every session is an opportunity for something-- don't put so much pressure on yourself. Trust your mind and your unconscious-- when you are ready, it will come.

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If you were to say something that makes you appear like a total shameful, complete idiot, evil, hypochondriac, (add any other judgment labels) freak-- WHAT IS THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN? Be honest here... this is why I put the trigger icon on this thread. In a therapy session, what is the worst thing you can think of that can happen?

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The worst thing that can possibly happen is that you have to sit there and tolerate your feelings with your therapist. In time, it becomes the best thing because you learn that both you and your therapist can regulate your emotions together. In time, you will see the acceptance. The worst thing that can happen is that you have to feel. The best thing that can happen is that you have to feel.

I'm editing this to add that I didn't realize you already went to your T and told her what you wanted to say. Well, I'm still going to leave my post here because another viewpoint is always good. Nice job!