She called me this evening.
I told her how I felt. I told her I felt I was just a side thought, and that the session really threw me for a loop.
She was very, very apologetic but said she doesn't know that in this situation that she could have handled it differently. I didn't know if she could have either, the way it went down, but I told her it still hurt.
She said she cares about me (us) a lot. She spends a lot of extra time with us (the 30 minutes of 90 is pro bono) and does try to meet our needs where she can.
After being with her a year and nine months she hoped that I would be able to handle this. I told her I thought I did rather well. I typically have a "borderline" response of she hurts me, so I hurt/jab back at her. I wanted to, more than anything. But I ended up just laying it all on the table to talk it out. She was really helpful, and proud of me. She knew it still hurt, and apologized again for how the session went.
In a half cryish half laughing way I said "Well, atleast this is sort of a life lesson that shows me your life isn't perfect, you've had a pretty crappy couple of days!"
We laughed about her making mistakes and being human - something we always joke about because I want her to be perfect! One of my littles told her in a very stern way - "Next time there is a crisis pencil it in!"
The call helped a LOT and we will follow up with the damage next week.
She did send me home with one of her blankies to keep me safe until the next session.
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