Wow Myzen...this sounds a lot like my hubby. Well...how he used to be. He was definitely a people pleaser. We used to argue a lot because he would tell me "what I wanted to hear", not what was true.

Then he began avoiding reality...dissociating. The pressure to please his parents, my parents, me became so much that he would "check out". He had a whole new persona where he didn't have a wife to please or take care of.

Luckily, with therapy this has stopped (to my knowledge) and things are so much better. Thanks for posting this, it gives me something to think about.