I'll try to cut right to the chase...

Divorced for 5 yrs., started dating a new guy 8 months ago. He's also been divorced for about 5 years and has yet to be in a serious relationship. He actually ended our relationship 2.5 months ago, but then said he misses me and still wants to hang out with me and be "friends". So...we spend our weekends together, we hang with each others friends, we have a great time together, we have incredible sex, but we are not a couple. I know we are exclusive. He admits to being a commitment phobe and knows I want more. How much longer should I stick around? I know he cares for me but perhaps not enough. He's the best thing that has come in to my life since my divorce. I don't want to let him go...but do I even have him or is he using me?? HELP.