Not trying to have a go at you in any way shape or form.

I would like to hear her version of events as I know I have had petty rows with my ex over simlar things and I would of sounded like your wife, ex had got me in such a state over the years I had no paitence with him and he couldnt see that he was at fault ! And yet now that we are divorced he can see what he did. (too late)

I think what I am saying is there are two sides to an argument why not let your wife read what you have written and see how upset you are and maybe she can explain a few things to you ?