(((((bebop))))))
A good friend of mine reccomend I read a book called, "Co-Dependent No More". Its a good book and helped me learn to deal with my alcoholic boyfriend. Its got a straight up approach and the girl is pretty cool that writes it.....she's lived it. Not just some PhD with a pen.
Big hugs to you bebop! If you get a chance pick it up - if nothing else it gave me comfort.
Take care!