Hi everyone!

I've been in a long distance relationship with someone for quite some time. We spend a couple of weeks together every few months and this is good for now. The problem is sex.

There seems to be an issue with E.D. no.. no.. there IS an issue. He said he's never had a problem before.. ok.. no problem... it's very common, you're getting older.. blah blah blah. He keeps saying "don't worry.. it'll happen". Ok.. so I believed him. I make sure he's satisfied sexually and sometimes he tries with me.

A few months later we get together, and he still can't get hard enough for penetration. I sort of expected this. We had a good, serious talk.. right then and there. He said he was feeling bad about it, it was hurting his ego... on and on. The funny thing here is that prior to this visit, he asked me if I would marry a man who couldn't "perform". I told him just how I feel... that if there's nothing which can be done about it, I'm fine with it... but if something can be done and he chooses to do nothing.. that shows me he has no interest in my happiness. He was happy with that response.

So, we did the usual do... but no intercourse. He asks me AGAIN how I feel. He asked if I'm disappointed. I told him I won't lie. I would LOVE to have that union with him, but the fact that at this moment we cannot enjoy each other that way doesn't mean he doesn't make me happy. I told him that I truly enjoy him in and out of bed. I love to touch him, I love the intimate time we spend together.

I suggested he go see his doctor and ask if he's healthy enough for a little vitamin V. He laughs... agrees.. and puts some thought into what excuse he'll make for the visit. I go home.

He had call to go to the doctor yesterday.. .. a pulled muscle, so prior to the visit I said "oh.. this is a good time to ask for a rx of viagra or cialis, levitra.. whatever. He agreed.

He called after the appointment and I let him tell me what went on, the rx he got for the problem....... and I waited. He didn't mention asking the doctor if he was healthy enough to take any medication for E.D.. So I asked "did you happen to ask the doctor". He got a little nasty and said loudly "NO I DIDN'T, BUT I'LL GET TO IT".

I changed the subject IMMEDIATELY.. all the while thinking that he just doesn't want me. He says he does, he says he loves me, says he can't wait to see me.. but to be honest, if he's not willing to make the attempt to correct something which could possibly be an easy fix and will make both of us feel a lot better, I'm afraid this reflects how he'll handle other situations.. (by ignoring them)?

The relationship is serious... because of his work, I'm the one considering relocating.. but I have to be honest, I feel like he just doesn't care HOW I feel. I didn't think this was going to be an issue. At first I thought.. "oh.. no biggie.. easy to deal with". Now I'm thinking that this little issue is becoming consuming.

Men are welcome to chime in here. Is this how he's putting me off?

Thank you
L