This all started out as HIS issue and it is now clearly getting to be YOUR issue.

What happens if you break under the pressure? You could both be out of work in a great city without jobs. I think you had a pretty good grip on this problem a while back, but it seems to this reader to be slipping. Or maybe it was slipping and it is now more noticable.

I am not seeing a very good outcome to the way things look right now.

Perhaps you need to get both of you to a couples counseling session.

I am going to be a mean old parent here and dish out some tough love to you by saying you need to dish out some tough love to him. You can use your chain of love to start dragging him kicking and screaming out of the muck, or he is going to use it to drag you in with him.

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