{{{{{{LMo}}}}}}

I have been reading your posts and I did offer you some suggestions before...however I am going be blunt and please try not to take this the wrong way

The thing that is standing out to me is that you are in control of your relationship even though you say you aren't and you say that you don't want to be. Financially and emotionally you are the one in charge. It is up to you to change that...not him. I am getting the impression that from your previous marriage you weren't in control and now you are? If that makes any sense

What you need to do is look at the relationship and make a decision...I know you said that you wouldn't leave him if he had cancer? I know that....but....the only thing he is doing is taking his meds...that is all. You are 34....you mentioned kids....this isn't going to happen if you stay on this treadmill that he has you on.

I am sooo sorry if this is sounding mean to you...I am truly not trying to be so harsh ok? {{{{{{{{LMo}}}}}}}} I just know how hard it is....I was there too before hun and it takes a lot of strength to be where you are. You are strong and you can make the change.



Heather

"The Pessimist complains about the wind, the Optimist expects it to change and the REALIST adjusts his sails." ~~~author unknown