Hi AllyH88,

No, T's and PDOC's don't know about things you don't tell them, including emotions, unless they are prominently displayed (like crying).
At best, they might be able to tell if you were uncomfortable or sad when responding to certain questions, or a good T can tell something might be wrong by body language, but even so, they won't understand why unless you tell them. Psychologists are trained to be excellent observers, but you really have to open up with them to get anything accomplished. It's a little bit intimidating and even scary at first, but if you are with a good T who you have built trust with it's a good experience.

Your acquaintance who is a psychiatric social worker is immature. I wouldn't take anything into account as to what she said while drinking at the party. She's not right, and the word "crazy" doesn't mean anything in psychiatry, which is why it isn't used there. I think you should challenge your acquaintances belief, and go from there. Don't take it personal, because I'm sure if she had her wits about her she wouldn't have said anything that could potentially hurt someone.
Anyone who uses those terms or thinks that way who works in psychiatry/psychology in a professional capacity... well, isn't very professional. If they outwardly use those terms, my opinion is they need to be reported.
I'm sorry your having a hard time right now.
It will get better. Don't be so hard on yourself, and don't worry about your acquaintance who probably needs to see a psychologist herself if she's that insecure. Take care, and I hope you find a T you can work with!