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RACEKA said:
You talked about T's being observers. Can you or anyone explain what T's observe? How do they know your uncomfortable with a question? What kind of body language to we show?

I never did understand this.

Thanks.

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Aside from being a good observer, T's are trained to be really good listeners, which isn't too different from observation.

Usually a good T can pick up on subtle changes and reactions you have to comments and questions by the T. Body language can vary in response per person and isn't always standard, most of the time T's will be able to pick up on even the most subtle of body movements. T's become really good at this when they get to know you better over time.

Try paying close attention to how you respond to questions, comments, and negative emotional situations. When you have anxiety, do you have any particular thing you do, like tap your foot perhaps? Play with your hair? When you feel defensive about something, do you cross your legs and maybe cross your arms? Do you sit closer to your T when you feel comfortable, and further away when you don't? A lot of things we just do almost unconsciously, out of habit.