Itss funny you posted this
well not funny hahah
Last night my daughter had a party to go to. I took control and drove her. Which in my eyes was a good thing.I am still thinking that.
My ins my car. So I needed that control.....plus her life and others..

One of the ppl she knows drove to the party. He got drunk. Him and a freind of his left the party. no one knew they left.
They crashed , ((they are both ok)) but he called his Mom who took responsablity for the accident.
Meaning she took control
your statement
"people who take responsibility for things they have no control over"

This kid had a brand new 2007 car.
What would I have done.
I hate to say it. He was drunk, under age, He coulda hurt someone
I would have let him take the responsibility..........
I would do anything to protect my kids
But when you come to this how will he learn this kid
so yes its a recipe for a belief systym crash........
sorry hope this was not out of line
muffy