I like how my T is such a good observer. His noticing my non-verbal communication is another way he shows he cares for me. When he comments on what I am feeling, or my mood, based on the non-verbals, it makes me feel more connected, and like he notices and cares. This is in contrast to my H, who is a dolt, and doesn't get non-verbal, much less verbal communication. It feels really good to be around a man who notices what is going on with me! It's healing.

I am also a good observer and I know my T so well now, that I know his communication nuances too. I know when he is appalled, sad, surprised, hurt, feels rejected, etc. He has experienced all these in reaction to what I said. The "appalled" we discussed and handled OK. The "rejected" he would not admit to, but hey, that's OK, maybe it wouldn't have been therapeutic for him to acknowledge it. I didn't push on that. I think he was just trying to be professional and make it about me. This level of communication makes our interactions so much richer.