I hope this is not considered too "political." This morning on a program called The Story, produced at North Carolina Public Radio - WUNC, I heard about this organization for the first time -- the Nonviolent Peace Force (!). The story was about dealing with the Tamil Tigers to save some children whom they had kidnapped in order to make child soldiers out of them. I think you may be surprised at the methods of this organization:

"Nonviolent Peaceforce (NP) is a nonpartisan unarmed peacekeeping force composed of trained civilians from around the world."

Nonviolent Peace Force

And to answer a question, I don't think trying to forgive is all that relevant. Maybe it just comes with comprehension.