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My biggest question: are the plateaus of 'normalcy' between swings - the real person - capable of love, honesty, trust, insight, good judgment and spirituality? Or are they merely a facade created by medications and temporary brain chemistry equalization?

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I don't quite know how to put this... We are not irrevocably damaged insane people who are incapable of love, honesty, trust, insight, good judgment and spirituality. When we are well we are ourselves. The purpose of medication is to stabilize our moods not to create a false persona. We are not and should not be defined by our disease.

It can be tough to be with a person who is bipolar. There is no denying that, but you need to make the decision of what is best for you. It doesn't sound like you are married as you said you just moved in together so I personally look at it like, there was not vow made before god and freinds, so no reason that your traditionalist view should keep you there. Even traditionalist date to find the person to make that vow of forever to. It sounds like you have already made up your mind by saying that you thought he was one of the major loves in your life, the fact that this happened once and you are already questioning your commitment even though you described the rest of your time together as good, the thought that you wonder who this person really is, and the major theme of the post being that you feel that as a traditionalist you have to stay rather than saying you want to stay because you love him.

Sorry if this sounded blunt, but I hope that by having what you posted summarized by a third person's view you see where your heart and head are headed. Good luck.