Marrying someone you no longer love to avoid loneliness,hurting them, etc, is to cause yourself great repurcussions. I married a gal in 1963 that I no longer was in love with, and it destroyed my life. The conflicts I felt, the guilt, and the faking of emotion, seriously affected me psychologically. I was as depressed as one can get. Two young children, a boy and a girl, and a job that took so much energy from me, completed my disaster. It eventually was discovered that I was bipolar. I had to leave my marriage in its 7th year, and was divorced in its 10th year. I have NO relationship at all with my children(their choice), or my ex-wife. My grief over the loss of my children's love and respect doesn't leave me completely. Seeing parents and grandparents with youngsters eats away at me, esp during "the holidays". To conclude, professing love you don't feel cheats you AND your partner. You because you don't have the person you really want, and your partner by not getting what they may think they are obtaining. I will continue with this topic if you wish, later. I have to leave to leave for an appointment. In love, honesty is an essential part. leontheo1@ verizon.net