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First things first...change you tagline LMo is going to be A-ok sounds much better

Awww hun I know you love him...that is so obvious. I don't mean that he is laying a guilt trip on you intentionally...unintentionally is more like it.

What you need to do though is to say to him...ok...it is like this.....6 months from now You need to be working....it doesn't matter what job (I know that you feel it is useless with any job but I feel differently on that). Use "I" statements....I am tired of being the one financially responsible.....I need to have the financial burden lifted from my shoulders...that type of thing.

If the date comes it is up to him to have made the changes there...if he doesn't - that is where the toughness has to come in. It doesn't mean that you don't ever see him again and all that.....just that it is the reality check that he needs to see that - ok she is serious this time.

Don't keep tabs on his progress though....just tell him the date (for example - 6 months) and go from there. When you come home from work...tell him about your day....don't ask - Did you find a job? Leave that up to him.

Keep posting hun....I don't want to see you cry {{{{{{{{{{{{LMo}}}}}}}}}}}}


Heather

"The Pessimist complains about the wind, the Optimist expects it to change and the REALIST adjusts his sails." ~~~author unknown