</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Rainbowzz said:
And thats sort of my line of thinking too - I don't have to forgive or excuse someone to understand why they may have chosen the path or action that they did. Though I do think it is an amazing thing to be able to forgive, I don't think its entirely necessary for compassion to shine through.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">

I very much agree with this! I do try to think about what could be causing a person to do what they are doing. But sometimes even have that understanding it is not enough to let me forgive them, although I do have compassion for them. Sounds crazy right??

Having had to drive to the hospital quickly so that I could see my daughter before they life flighted her to another hospital, I now imagine all tailgaters as having to do the same thing. It allows me to replace my quick annoyance and anger with understanding, even if it is not true.

Sometimes I can think and maybe even understand a reason for why a person did what they did.......But totally forgiving them is a lot harder.

I do try to move on though, even if that abusive person is a family member or someone I see everyday, I try to still include them as much as possible.

Maybe that is my way of forgiving, although to be honest, it doesn't feel like that.