I started my therapy thinking that it would be a family thing. That didn't happen. First I went to check my T out and make sure she seemed OK. Then my son went for a while, then finally I talked my H into to going. He went once, totally broke down during the session with regard to his relationship with our son. Then he recovered himself by saying all kind of crap about me and our private life. The end result of he his one day in therapy was: 1) that he was a complete emotional mess for the next week, 2) I was furious for a long time with both my T and him because in my mind the session was supposed to focus on our son not what I need to be doing for him, and 3) my H refuses to do any type of therapy and gets defensive when he knows I have an appointment.

Since this time I have continued to attend therapy alone. It has helped make our home a lot safer and a lot more positive for our children. Unfortunately, I think that the deeper conflict that exist between my H and I cannot be solved without him doing some individual work and then both of us doing at least a few sessions as a couple. I really don't see that happening at this point.

I will also so that I have grown a lot personally and this has created even more distance between us. However, I have some better coping skills now.