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earthmama said:
I know my T pays close attention to my body language, because he'll comment on it sometimes... but that makes me really self-conscious!

We did have kind of a therapy breakthrough when he pointed out that sometimes when we're getting close to a difficult topic, I'll suddenly kind of raise my chin defiantly and move on to something else. He helped me notice when I was doing it, and asked me if I could stay with the difficult topic a little longer - and we've been able to talk about the topic a little since then.
He'll also comment sometimes about how I'm sitting. I always take off my shoes and sit with my knees pulled up in front of me on the couch - and kind of peek over my knees at him. Sometimes, I'll stretch my legs out straight and lean against the arm of the couch, and he'll say something like "you seem relaxed:.
Honestly, it makes me kind of nervous that he's reading me like that. I'm not used to people playing such close attention to me - and it makes me wonder what else he's seeing that he's not saying?!?!

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Hi earthmama!
You're not simply being WATCHED, earthmama. You're actually being...
ANALYZED!!!!!

That's a good sign though. A good T should be an excellent trained observer. Not that knowing that makes it easier on difficult topics. It actually might make you more nervous as it does me when I discuss topics that are a little more difficult.

Don't bother wasting your time trying to figure out what your T might be thinking about you. I sincerely doubt it would be anything negative. He isn't going to criticize you, and the thought I'm sure never crosses his mind. I think that is what therapists call "unconditional positive regard."

Just make sure you warn your T at the start of the session if you had to take a Benadryl for allergies so that he knows if you act goofy it's probably not what he thinks.