I see now. Thanks for clarifying. You have lived with the memories, but recently you realized that what was done to you wasn't okay. I bet that you have a lot of feelings about that, as well as reasons for not calling it abuse before. And I think that a lot of us question whether what happened to us was really abuse. I know that I still question it.

The specific degree that the helper you find doesn't matter so much as that they have training and experience with working through trauma. Abuse traumatizes, and when you have gone a long time not knowing that what happened wasn't okay, it can be more of a challenge to undo the damage that was done because it has been normalized, and now you have to sift through everything you know and find what is healthy and what needs repair. Support groups like ACOA, etc. can help too, but I think that the most helpful would be a therapist (which can include psychologists, counselors, etc.) who knows how to do trauma work. Most therapists should be able to do that, but some are better than others. And sometimes it does take several tries to find the right one for you.