Ian, I think this is an example of blackmail by suicide. A most profound insult to all those who the suicide claimed to love. The ultimate statement of let me use you or I will hold my breath until I die. Unfortunately this kind of person is willing to hold their breath until they both die. "I'm going down and I'm taking you with me." A most horrid kind of narcissism.

LMo, I hope your friend is NOT like this and if he is, you certainly don't deserve to be taken as a secondary victim.

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