I just checked out the link pages that Dr. John provided. I had all the prerequisites for low self-esteem in childhood. I have exhibited all of the three faces of low self-esteem at various times in adulthood -- and sometimes simultaneously! I have suffered the bad effects of low self-esteem throuighout my life, including under-achievement, drug/alcohol abuse, and trouble with relationships.

Over 30 years, I have gradually learned to use some of the tools. I want to learn to add others to my repertoire. For example, having fun. I barely know what it means to have joyous exuberant fun -- I sure wasn't experiencing that during my childhood as I tried to do everything perfectly and not get yelled at.

I've made some progress. I attribute this to my association in adulthood with people who give hugs, who patiently offered me alternate perspectives for viewing my self and my life, therapists who taught me some of these tools, friends who urge me to take care of myself, including Forums friends.

Steady work over the course of 30 years has produced results -- not as great as I would have liked. But improvement. I wish the same for you, Bama, Angel, Rapunzel, and everyone who visits this thread. And, of course, for me too.