Hi Stephanie -- I don't think anyone online can predict how your therapist will respond to your letter. Because you have fallen in love with her, this makes me suspect that she is somewhat close to your own age. If that is true, she may not have a great deal of experience handling this sort of thing. Hopefully, she has enough experience not to "freak" and to handle the situation with appropriate professionalism.

If she doesn't, remember this: Her reaction is not your fault. It's not your job to figure out how your therapist will respond and modify your behavior to suit her. Well, okay, if you were say, planning on hitting her over the head with a chair, then I would say, yeah, better give some thought to how she would respond. Such as having you taken away in handcuffs!

In this situation, if she isn't able to handle the situation with professionalism, that is not your fault. A constructive therapeutic experience requires honesty and trust. If you can't trust her with your feelings for her, how will you decide which feelings you can trust her with? What I was taught was this: We are only as sick as our deepest secrets. It's getting to the place where we can share those secrets with another human being that allows us to dig into these old wounds, clean them out, and let them heal properly, so they are no longer festering wounds that torture us emotionally.

Honesty, in my opinion, starts now, with this. I am sure that this will be very hard for you and will take a great deal of courage. I wish you much peace and great blessings in handling this delicate matter.