Kim,
I'm really sorry that you are feeling so sad, so confused, and hurt. No one deserves to feel that way. These things can bring up all sorts of emotions from our past that we don't want to re-live.

In my opinion, Kim, and I might be wrong--- I don't think your T had any right to say what he said. He made it sound like you are a burden somehow, and it's completely untrue. Your T can't handle himself, it seems, and should have been cognizant of how it would sound, and how you would feel when he said it. His impulsive blurting out that you place demands on him, seems to indicate he has self doubts. His emotion took over the therapeutic value to the relationship.

Don't worry that you are placing a "burden" on your T. His JOB is to maintain a therapeutic relationship, and he violated that, IMO. He should have suggested alternative options to your suggestions/requests (seldom and minor as your requests seemed to be). Instead, he said something he should have KNOWN was going to be hurtful and with no purpose other than his own indulgences.

Ack.... I just feel really bad about what happened with you, and I wish there was something I could say that was more helpful.