Oh Angie, that is just so sad. My heart aches thinking about your situation.

It sounds like your mom defines herself by the men in her life. She MUST be wonderful if all these men want her.....ugh. She doesn't define herself as much as a mom. But of course, for you guys - that's ALL she is and she is failing you miserably. I don't understand it either. It does make me wonder about her childhood relationship with her father. Why is she so damaged when it comes to relationships with men? This surely isn't due to the divorce....it happened much earlier. imho.

It totally sucks when our parents fail, because as kids, we have a right to believe we are #1 in their life. When we aren't...we have a tendancy to blame ourselves. What's wrong with ME that my father doesn't love me? Well, heck...it ain't me, it's him. I have to keep reminding myself of that. Sucks tho, even as an adult. Sucked a lot more when I was a teen.

Ok, now I'm rambling...and about ME no less.

I'm just so sorry you are hurting Ang. I wish we could learn how to accept that a human can make babies, but still not be a parent.

BIG HUGS, Auntie.