I know that this may sound harsh, but you may at some point be forced to put your and your children's safety ahead of your marriage. So it might be wise to explore some options. No alcoholic is going to change until they accept that change is necessary and are willing to do the work to change. This must be a heart breaking situation for you.

I too would consider trying to attend alanon. I've met lots of people in alanon at AA conferences, and it seems like a really good resource for people dealing with an alcoholic in their lives.

Take care.

---splitimage