you know what i think? i think your mom is running scared. scared and in denial...she has to have the men but they are only instant gratification....so she zones out on everything else because she's after the quick fix. being a mother is not a quick fix. it is hard work and she's in denial that she needs to be doing that. you're a wonderful person and i really hate that she's like this. it sucks, majorly!! i'm sorry that you spent all that time and didn't even get a connection with her....xoxoxo pat