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fellowtraveler said:
When have you talked directly to your T about your relationship with good results?

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I always give feedback to my T. Usually it is all great feedback. She has given me extra time, allowed me to communicate through email, given me connection items to make it to the next session, given me extra sessions throughout the week, allowed me come in at the end of a hard day just for a hug to ground myself, and one time let me come in when there was a storm outside and my little alter just layed on the couch while she did paperwork. I've tried to tell her that I appreciate her actions and her as a person, though I am human, and fail to do so probably more often then not.

As for hard feedback. The first time I ever did this was Wednesday of last week. I had made a post here about the session being "worthless". My therapist had to deal with a crisis, and it took a lot of time and attention away from my session. I was hurt, confused, and most of all angry. Typically, my response would be to completely shut down on her, slam all doors, and say forget it, I was done. But I took time to cry out of the frustration at the very poor session. I asked that she call me at the end of her day, she did. I told her how I felt. I said the session was horrible, and that I felt like I shouldn't have even attended, that I was very hurt.

It was one of the hardest things I've done, but it was a huge step to show my growth in therapy.