Thanks everyone for your advice. I know there are some of you who have experienced the same thing or just provide a different perspective than I do. Thank God for caring people because this is just a bummer!!!

My husbands whole family has a drinking problem, so no this has been going on with him since I met him. The difference was we didn't have a child and I would go out with him and monitor what he was drinking or cut him off before the crash point. (Im sure you are thinking that I am crazy for marrying a drunk, but he really was more interested in me back then than drinking!) And he has stopped for months at a time. But now it seems that he is doing the binge drinking, not coming home at leased once a week which is the worst it has ever been.

He has a good job, Im not sure he likes it much, but it is the most money he has made in a while and he is up for promotion soon which makes him happy.
I will look into a support group and encourage him to seek help. He just always says that he is not happy with his life. Like this morning when he woke up, he just went on with his day without even an explanation of his behavior....that is what drives me the most crazy. He has a lack of respect for me and doesn't feel he needs to even apologize for the behavior anymore. (I should add that most of his relationships have ended because he just can't communicate and really is a selfish person as well, but I still feel like I can fix him and deep down its just so sad for me.)

Well, I will try to get him to see reason and sit him down when he is in a good mood to talk about this I guess. Any advice how to go about helping him along with help? I don't wanna sound like the nagging wife but I don't think he will seek help on his own right now.

Its a lot to process, so many things running through my head.
Thanks again everyone.