KIm,
Have come across some similar, frustrating exchanges with T where he told me that perhaps what I was seeing were his limitations. I interpreted this to mean his humanity, his self, his personhood. But, as presented in the context it was--it felt as though parts of me were rejected. I come up against this now and again and know it's the split out parts that crave more than he can give.
When I think of the disorganized self I think of a pile of molecules and T as a the mad scientist. The molecules will eventually come together in a little bit different configuration as before, but with the same external appearance.
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and so maybe that traumatic bonding is all i know.
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Yeah, me too. T called it complex ptsd. So we have to learn what healthy bonding, with healthy boundaries feels like and then react accordingly?
Hey, just found this article of interest:
Peace
Self Psychology rupture & repair