Silversparrow, could you ask a close friend or family member to help you make the call? Maybe they could make the call with you sitting right next to them. Or if it is always a voicemail you get, maybe your friend could leave her number to call back and then she could make the appointment for you when they returned the call. And maybe the friend could also come with you to the first appointment (not to be in session with you, but just for support to get you to the waiting room).

When you do find a T, she will help you overcome your fear of talking to her. They know how to help with that.

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How did all of you decide it was time to see a thearpist and how did you go about doing it?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I went to see a therapist when I had hit bottom, when I was so depressed, I was barely functioning, and I knew I had major issues in my life to solve beyond the depression and knew I could not do any of this without help. Those calls were very hard to make, first to my EAP to get names of therapists, and then to call them each up. I had to call 3 before I got one who would call back or who consent to see me. I didn't care who it was because I could hardly make the call much less ask discerning questions. I could barely get through the calls and when they would call back to say no they couldn't take me on, I would shake and cry silently. It was such a hard thing to do, so I know you are struggling. Thinking back to my frame of mind, it wasn't so important that the therapist be a perfect fit--it was helpful just to get started and talk to someone. It would have been impossible for me to interview a half dozen practitioners. I just needed someone, anyone. If I sought perfection when I so needed help, it would have been hard for me to start moving. After some months of seeing this T, I quit because she wasn't the answer to what I needed, but I was less depressed and stronger, and could then do better at finding the one for me. I feel very grateful to her--she played an important role.

You are wise to know you need help. Your strong desire to see a therapist shows you have a strong will to get better. I hope you can find a friend to help you with the calls. You are worth it.